There’s this idea that has sway over the majority. It is that someone has to practice what they preach. That if you don’t do for yourself what you believe to be the solution for your problem then you have no right advising another with the same problem to do the very thing you do not do.
The problem with man is not that he doesn’t know what to do it is that he doesn’t do it.
This almost unspoken rule is the very rule that causes people to become disingenuous. We all want to be heard, to feel that what we say carries some weight and because people habitually almost instinctively judge the truth value of what we say by how we live our lives we whitewash our lives before others just so we can participate in communication.
We argue constantly trying to justify ourselves. To make ourselves at least appear to do the right thing. To never be wrong in word or action.
This sets up a strange little feed back loop. Instead of looking at a thing and saying what we think we now try to conform our behaviour to what we say. Often when the two (What we do and what we say) are out of step we change the words to fit the actions.
It would be better and less pathological (in the sense that a pathology causes pain and disruption) if we recognized the fact that we act from a different place than we speak from. That a drug addict with a heroin syringe in his arm can say truthfully “you shouldn’t do this; it’s bad” with the exact same weight as a Tory.
There is a difference between walking the path and speaking the path. This is true. But the words are the same for both.
All because a thief says it is wrong to steal doesn’t mean it is right.
The truth is the truth whoever says it.