Beauty, Media and Porn: A Man’s Impressions Before and After

Media has robbed people of their innate sense of beauty. The problem with the media is that it sets up a standard and then people – especially men (at least that’s how it seems to me being a man) – think that beauty is determined by how closely a woman resembles this ideal.

Let it be clear: I am not a sexist. Sure if you were to average out scores on physical strength tests men would be “superior” but in the modern world physical strength is an irrelevance. In all relevant factors men and woman are identical. But I am a man who is now talking about beauty and given that my opinions are MINE and are subjective I can only talk about a man’s view of beauty and seeing as I’m a heterosexual they will be about the beauty of women. Disclaimer over.

Recently I quit pornography. I don’t mean I was once a porn-star. I mean I quit watching it. This along with not really watching TV anymore puts me in an ideal position to compare the two states. How I saw women before and after.

The main conclusion I have come to is that I had been robbed. What I naturally found beautiful encompassed much wider range than what I thought I found beautiful under the spell of media.

It’s not that any specific body-shape or type is beautiful. If I try to analyze women I find beautiful in terms of physical characteristics now I find that there are no universals. Rather it’s that a woman’s body expresses her personality. The make-up they wear, the emotion lines they have, the asymmetries of the face. All of it is beautiful. Well not all because sometimes it’s expressing quite grotesque character flaws. Funnily enough some of the women I found beautiful before I find ugly now.

I think a key factor in it is also that I am not gauging women in terms of how it would be to have sex with them. I think that when one stops gauging people in terms of sexual attraction then inner beauty shines out and sexual attraction arises out of that rather than just being a shallow measure of a person. Something that is fleeting.

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